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Brooklyn Fit Chick Vlog Ep 62: Introverts vs Extroverts plus My Mophie Juice Pack Giveaway! 13

Brooklyn Fit Chick Vlog Episode 62

Featuring: The Battle between Introverts & Extroverts

Plus: The Brooklyn Fit Chick Mophie “Juice Pack Plus” Giveaway (Not Sponosred!)

You can win a Mophie Juice Pack from this introvert!

You can win a Mophie Juice Pack from this introvert!

Hey there! Hi there! Ho there!

Its Thanksgiving week and I am feeling more than a little ready to get some rest and not work so much. How about all of you? So in that lazy spirit I want to touch off on a topic that has been completely haunting me lately and would love to get your feedback on it.

Plus—I accidently bought the wrong version of a Mophie Juice Pack (http://www.mophie.com/search?q=juice+pack&gclid=CP6ijYbe-7oCFbFxOgodqgwAFA) that fits an iPhone 5 and will be giving one away this week rather than returning it because I love you all so much. You’re welcome!

But before I get to the giveaway—let’s discuss the difference between introverts and extroverts.

As long as I can recall I have felt like an introvert, not shy or afraid to meet people, but rather someone who is just as happy alone as I am within a group of freinds. The problem is that for most of life people have described me as “outgoing,’ “energetic” and (my least favorite word in the word) “perky.” (If you want to get on my bad side–try using that word in front of me! Grr!) So I can come across as outgoing and always the life of the party when that is not me at all.

It’s true that I can meet people rather easily and am a bit of a ham when I am  the center of attention. Teaching fulfills that need for people to notice me and listen to what I have to say.

However—I am not made of an everlasting energy source. At some point with every good time in my life (great parties, fun classes, a concert I waited months to attend, incredible vacations, etc.) there is a moment where my mind says “okay, that’ll do” and I need to leave. Like I REALLY, REALLY NEED TO GO SOMEWHERE ELSE AND RETREAT.

It feels imperative and I can’t ignore my inner voice when it happens. My brain starts to shut down and my vision weakens. My back, feet and head start to hurt and I can’t focus on anything relevant in front of me. I will yawn in the middle of a friend telling me an intense story or will just start playing with my iPhone on the couch rather than seek out one more conversation.

Sure there have been some occasions that staying longer and riding it out to talk to one more person at the holiday party or stay for just one more song at the all-day music festival have brought me incredible joy.

But more often than not when I force myself past my internal energy gauge it just wears me out. The light goes out in my head and I am running on fumes. My patience wears thin and I begin to resent people for not leaving me alone.

Why am I like this? Who the hell knows? I moved every few years growing up and was constantly meeting new people and having to navigate the social rules in each new school I attended. It was very hard at times and I was angry about it for years but I now honestly think it taught me to become more outgoing.

To overcome my introverted nature and learn how to reach out to others for companionship.

I can make new acquaintances feel like my oldest friend in the world in just a few minutes and can be “on” very quickly (and brightly) when I have to. Not everyone can do that. And I am not lying or being deceptive when I turn on the charm. If I say “I like you” understand that I really DO like you. (I would rather sit by myself than waste time on a jerk.)

Five years ago I began my life as a group fitness instructor and can say honestly that I am rarely nervous before getting up in front of a group of students. Even when I am subbing—there is no fear of failure. When people tell me they are too shy to teach I have NO idea what they are talking about. What’s there to be afraid of? Most folks are easy to entertain.

Anyhoo—several months ago I attended the annual Fitbloggin conference and had a chance to chit chat with Carla B. who is the creator of www.mizfitonline.com and is a big inspiration for me. Carla wrote a really amazing post about her reputation as a “ninja” who just disappears and reappears from the conference. Check it out here: I’ve Declared Introvert Status.

As soon as I read this my first thought was “wow—that’s me, exactly!”

Then—a few months later my Fitbloggin roomie Christine A. aka Dubya Wife; aka sister from another mister posted on her Facebook page how she identified herself as an extrovert and wished people would understand her point of view better. I can’t find the exact link she used on her Blog but here is a pretty great post from BuzzFeed: 25 Frustrating Things About Being An Extrovert. It has really rocked my world and opened my eyes to another way of living.

It never occurred to me that people who need to be around others all of the time can feel pain when rejected. I assumed extroverts just have nonstop energy and could care less about whether or not they are “draining” to other people. I now know that extroverts aren’t just “need machines” but people who are honestly energized (seemingly non-stop) from the company of others. I want to take this moment to apologize to all of my extroverted friends & family for not understanding you better.

You weren’t trying to micromanage or judge me—you just wanted me to hang out a little longer. To spend more time chatting on the phone about nonsense or dance to one more goofy song at the party and I promise to try to do both more often.

I am leaving you with this fantastic article from Psychology Today online: The Introverts Corner. If you have a minute feel free to leave a comment below and let me know your thoughts on the great Introverts vs. Extroverts debate.

Now on to this week’s Vlog & My Groovy Giveaway!!

 

So let’s say you have an iPhone 5 and want your battery to last longer—stay tuned for my completely unsponsored, I am paying for this rad giveaway.

In order to win my Mophie (Continental U.S. only!) you must do the following:

  1. Post a comment below (on this particular blog post).
  2. Tweet out your interest by saying “I am an INTROVERT (or EXTROVERT) and I want to win a Mophie from @BrooklynFitChik”
  3. Subscribe to my You Tube here (let me know if you are already subscribed!) http://www.youtube.com/user/BrooklynFitChick1

I will randomly pick one winner next Monday, December 2nd at NOON eastern time and contact them directly. Good luck and enter as often as you like. 

 

Until next time…

Ox Ox,

BFC

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Brooklyn Fit Chick /Fitbloggin’ 2013 Highlights

The City of Portland, Giving Speeches, Chloe Sevigny’s Arm, Paleo Food Trucks and

Experiencing the Joy of  Multiple Hugs

 

Party night

Hey there! Hi there! Ho there!

 

I am back from Portland and slowly getting back to my “real life” as just little old me versus “Brooklyn Fit Chick”—it’s a tough transition.

When I was in Portland I felt as if I could just be myself all of the time and not hold back on giving someone a hug or being a total goofball. It was such a wonderful time and if I were a better writer I would be able to express how grateful I am each year to have a place where all of my personality quirks are fine and no one cares what size I wear or how much money I make. My goal is to bring more of this into my life. More joy, more laughs and certainly—more hugs.

First day was kind of a wash because my flights on Virgin airlines were so behind schedule that I was had to fly through Los Angeles instead of San Francisco and did not get in until almost midnight (sheesh!)

However, this turned out to be kind of a cool diversion because sitting right in front of me the way to Los Angeles was none other than actress Chloe Sevigny who was quiet and very sweet.

I took a quick picture of her delicate arm (hope she doesn’t mind!)

 

Chloe Sevigny

 

In the first class section sat Bravo’s Millionaire Matchmaker star Patty Stanger but since I have been warned that Patty is made of snakes (a nod to the fabulous Julie Klausner) I kept my distance from her.

At the hotel (The Nines which provided the best guest experience I have ever had) I was greeted by my amazing roommate Christine of Dubya Wife who had good enough manners to ignore my calls to room service for glasses of wine at midnight and my lack of any initiative for early morning workouts (hmm—are those two things related?)

Christine is my sister/friend and I am SO grateful she is in my life. Thank you Christine! (And see you at Mardis Gras 2015!)

BFC and Dubya's Wife--look out y'all!

BFC and Dubya’s Wife–look out y’all!

 

This was the first year at Fitbloggin where we had a fashion show (created by the insanely lovely Emmie Ho Sandford of Skinny Emmie) and it featured just about all of my favorite people in the world including Carla Birnberg Miz Fit Online,  Jennifer Mitchell of Comeback Momma and Tamara Grand of Fit Knit Chick.

 

Fashion Show

 

Me and Emmie catching up. (Love her to pieces!)

Emmie me

 

On Friday I faced a big fear of mine and actually gave a speech in public—yikes! Very happy to report the Writing the Perfect Pitch workshop I co-presented along with Kymberly Williams-Evans and Alexandra Williams of http://funandfit.org/ and Jamie Walker of “Sweat Pink/Fit Approach” http://www.fitapproach.com/sweat-pink/ (they are all sublime women) went over so well—big whew!

(Also a BIG “thank you” to my friend Martin who helped me put the presentation together—I owe you big, my friend.)

It was a particular thrill for me to meet the Williams sisters as I have been following them for years but I was not smart enough to remember to take a picture with them (dammit!)

Instead, here is a photo of me looking up to Kymberly as she gave a kick ass speech.

 

Thanks to Fitbloggin' for the photo!

Thanks to Fitbloggin’ for the photo!

After our workshop I felt the need to go for a walk and explore the city a bit which is when I discovered how cool Portland truly is. What a wonderful city filled with smart, interesting and NICE people.

 

Portland 3

My mission was to try and find the food truck I read about in Paleo magazine called Cultered Caveman. Holy smokes! First of all— I got to meet the owner Joe Ban who is not only a cool guy that can cook a mean Brazilian chicken but he also looks like Matt Damon—score!! Needless to say I went back Saturday as well to try out their mini-meatballs and brussel sprouts & broccoli mash (sooooo good.)

 

Why yes, people do tell me I look like Matt Damon!

Why yes, people do tell me I look like Matt Damon!

 

Friday night we had the annual “Ignite” presentation where fellow Fitbloggers talked from the heart about where they are in their lives and how they want to use their situation to help others. Two of my favorites that night were Sue of Mrs. Fatass and my roomie Christine.

Here is a photo of Sue.

 

Mrs Fatass

 

This is a quick clip of Christine’s presentation. http://youtu.be/6Z_SvR69Fjw

 

Saturday morning I met up with Brandi Koskie of Diets in Review as well as her husband and daughter to check out the Saturday outdoor market in Portland. This is located by the main campus of Portland State University and I was completely blown away by the beautiful homes surrounding the market.

 

Here is the Simon Benson house.

Simon Benson House

 

The Portland market entrance.

Portland Veggie market

 

This is Paisley—say hello to the world baby girl!

Paisley

Saturday afternoon (after I explored every single booth at the Portland Saturday Market downtown) I came back to the hotel to witness my first in-person flash mob. Margo of This is Not Your Momma’s Blog put the whole thing together and let me tell you it was a BIG hit with the crowd. (Yay for Margo power!)

Link to the Flash Mob clip: http://youtu.be/G_1CEC-90Ic

 

 

Two Margos hugging.

Margos

 

Saturday night was filled with hugs, drinking and more hugs with a few more terrific people I want to mention before I need to lie down and just think about Fitbloggin some more.

 

Shelton, Brandi and the gorgeous Lisa Johnson of Lisa Johnson Fitness.

 

Shelton Brandi Lisa

 

Me and fellow Sweaty Betty Valerie Kirkland of Livefit Journey

 

SBs

 

Alicia of Poise in Parma (love this gal!)

Alicia and Me

 

Me, Suzanne of Workout Nirvana and Tamara Grand.

 

Me Suzanne Tamara

Sometime on Saturday night the music started blaring and then this started to happen…

 

Chef Jason Roberts cutting a rug.

Chef dancing

 

Gangnam Style!

Party night

 

I needed to part ways sometime when the karaoke started (never been a fan—sorry!) My flight to NYC was leaving Portland at 6:30 am so I needed some shut eye time and was fully intending on going straight to bed when Lifetime TV had to put on the Anna Nicole Smith movie. Sheesh! Am I only human, people!

 

Anna nicole

So this is my last image from Portland. I think it captures the movie quite well, don’t you?

That is all for now. My next post will feature my exclusive “Fitbloggin Goodie Bag Giveaway” so y’all come back now ya hear?

Ox Ox,

BFC

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